“Our basic blueprint as humans is connection and bonding- sometimes we just need the right support at the right time to find our way back home.”
~ Dr. Scott Lyons
About Me...
An NPE
I discovered I was an NPE in 2021 at the age of 47. Ironically, I received my results on Mother's Day. My whole world turned upside down. The bewilderment and shock set in for a while. As I started looking for help, I discovered the trauma recovery certification program through IAOTRC. While the program guided me on my recovery, it also gave me the skills to help others in my same situation. I felt so isolated after my discovery and knew my purpose was to prevent others from feeling the same. Now I am a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach (CTRC) that specializes in guiding others as they navigate through the many challenges of a DNA test discovery and the traumas associated. I am also a Somatic Embodiment Practitioner. I utilize Mindfulness, Breathing, Brainspotting, Psychoeducation, Polyvagal theory, Parts Work, Creative Arts, Genogramming, and Self-Compassion Focused approaches.
What Coaches do:
• Coaches are guides, teachers and mentors. They work alongside their clients as peers.
• Coaches build a healthy relationship with their clients so that they can learn how to have a healthy relationship with themselves, others and the world.
• Coaches goal set with their clients, helping them map out a path that brings them closer to leading the life they want to live.
• Coaches provide education about trauma and recovery.
• Coaches share their personal experiences to let their clients know they are not alone in what they are facing and to validate their client’s experiences.
• Coaches help their clients identify the primary lies/core beliefs that were taught to them by their abuser or enabler. Once identified they help their clients define new, healthy truths/beliefs.
• Coaches help their clients celebrate their progress.
• Coaches help their clients build a healthy view of themselves, others and the world.
What Coaches do NOT do:
• Coaches do not treat, diagnose or assess their client’s mental health.
• Coaches do not prescribe medication or give advice about any medications.
• Coaches do not prescribe treatment.
• Coaches do not “process” trauma with their clients. Their focus is upon helping their clients function in their present day lives.
• Coaches do not work with clients who are at risk of harming themselves or others
• Coaches do not work outside of their scope of competence
Adapted from “The Difference Between Coaching and Therapy” published by the IAOTRC and written by Bobbi Parish, MA, CTRC-S (Executive Director)
What does someone do when their whole life has been filled with lies?
When their whole world is shaken by an ancestry surprise?
When suddenly the father that loved them isn’t their dad?
When they are rejected by the sister they always wished they'd had?
When the already fragmented face they don’t recognize in the mirror
Looks just like unknown relatives and now everything becomes clearer?
When their whole life has been just an unknown facade
Of broken promises, lies and love that was fraud?
What does someone do when they never get to meet their real dad?
And loves, but now doesn’t feel connected to, the father that they had?
Imagine being able to reconnect with your best childhood friend,
To tell her she’s your sister but her life tragically ends.
What can be the meaning of this all?
Is someone just waiting to watch me fall?
What does someone do when they are the product of abomination?
Knowing that lies and deceit resulted in their creation?
Rejected by new family and abandoned by the old,
Being the shameful product of the secrets that were never told.
What does someone do to begin picking up the shattered pieces?
And start afresh when the only life they know ceases?
~ Mundy Morgan
Who Am I?
Paternal traits passed down through genetics can include physical features, such as jawlines, noses, smile, face shape, and body type. Health and mental issues can be passed down such as diabetes, heart health, dental health, bipolar, and depression. Furthermore, temperaments and characteristics such as intelligence, motivation, risk-taking, creativity, and leadership skills can be passed down the paternal genetic line.
It was amazing when I compared photographs and saw myself in my paternal father and grandmother. It was also interesting how certain "quirks" get inherited. Careers are often similar as well. My bio father and I both enjoyed photography and journaling. Now I know that he is the one I got my entrepreneurial skills from. ​
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For more on genetics, epigenetics, family legacies, and intergenerational patterns, check out the intergenerational trauma course under my courses.